Happy Valentine’s Day!
Today is a day where there are many mixed emotions due to love and singleness. But today, I’m excited to chat with Shelley Black, the author of Savoring Single, as part of her blog tour on her new book and her advice for those of us who are single today.
Hi Shelley. When did you begin writing with the goal of becoming an author?
Funny enough, I never set out to become an author. My debut release, “Savoring Single,” came as inspired thought that I then developed to become what it is today. It certainly sparked something in me, though, as I already have four more book ideas and outlines ready to make their way to the blank page. It’s become such an exciting adventure!
What is Savoring Single about?
“Savoring Single” is an encouragement to every single girl heart who loves Jesus that there is more to her life than her relationship status and more to her story than a “happily ever after.” My life was on hold for a long time because I was single and believed I was missing out because of it. When in all reality, life is what we make of it, single or married, and can be thoroughly enjoyed and brimming with fulfilment even as we await God’s every promise to unfold. It is in Christ that our truest lives are lived and being single is the perfect time to give ourselves to that journey!
What inspired Savoring Single?
“Savoring Single” is really my testimony. So when God put the idea, and even the first few chapters, in my heart, I went on a road of remembrance of all He had brought me through and where I am in now today. It was remarkable to see how my thoughts and perspectives had changed, how He has changed my heart. Wow. Glory to God. For real.
Who is the book for?
Any single girl heart who is longing for a better way to do single, who wants to live above the depression, rejection and disappointment, who desires a full life and a rich relationship with God. And maybe she doesn’t even realize this is what she wants yet, but knows there must be something more than tear-stained pillow cases, agonizing loneliness and shallow relationships that don’t mirror true love.
Today, of course, is Valentine’s Day. What tips do you have for girls, women or anyone really who is feeling sad because they are Single?
God’s way of doing things is opposite to the culture we live in. The world says “take,” God says “give.” The world says “hoard,” God says “be generous.”
When we would rather sulk in our pity-party and wallow in our loneliness, watch a chick-flick and scorn our singleness – as the world has shown us so well to do – but hasn’t that gotten you into the same rut you face every year? So how about try something different.
1 Go and be love to someone else. When we give love, we are loved in return by Him.
2 Spend time to love on God. He delights in spending time with you, so go in your room and instead of teasing your emotions with a sappy romance, allow your heart to think on and read scriptures that declare His love and care for you. You’ll be much better off spending those broken moments with Him, I promise!
3 Tune your heart to thankfulness. Without “preaching” a sub-point (smile), I will say this: Eve’s fall came because she believed the lie that God was holding out on her. Sometimes it’s easy to believe the lie, but only if we’re not submerged in the truth. Let the truth of His Word resound in your heart of His faithfulness, kindness, mercy and provision. Thank Him for everything you can possibly think to thank Him for, from your heart. If you run out of ideas, open a Psalm and as you read, thank Him for what David mentions.
What do you want readers to get out of your book?
I want every girl who reads “Savoring Single” to encounter Abba Father in a deeper way that brings her into a richer, more intimate, relationship with Jesus Christ. Every.single.thing. we could ever hope for or need is in Him. Everything. Life, relationships and even marriage outside of Him is but a vapor of the depth He longs to bring us into by knowing Him. Our sun-parched skin can be momentarily soothed by the sea spray from a crashing wave, or we can swim to the depths of the ocean and drink in the very life our soul is desperate for.
Have you written any other books, and where can we find your writings?
“Savoring Single” is my debut release, but like I said earlier, more to come as early as this Spring. You can subscribe to my blog at SavoringSingle.com to stay up to date on blogs, speaking events and new releases!
Do you have any other passions other than encouraging others when they are low about feeling Single?
Oh my heavens. Yes. Worship! It’s the breath of my life and the constant atmosphere of my heart. I also build things, design graphics, spend tons of time with my niece and nephews
Where can we connect with you?
SavoringSingle.com or on Facebook and Instagram: @SavoringSingle
What tips do you have for young aspiring writers?
You are uniquely you and you have a story to tell. There are lives your life touches that others, even me, will never be able to reach. There is great power in the testimony, bringing glory to the One who formed us, redeemed us then renewed us to draw us near to Himself.
“But my life is worth nothing to me unless I use it for finishing the work assigned me by the Lord Jesus – the work of telling others the Good News about the wonderful grace of God.” (Acts 20:24 NLT)
Let the lives that we live and the stories we share be to the glory of God. There are many creative and unique ways this can happen and His expression through you is all a part of His design.
Well thank you so much Shelley for this wonderful talk. And be sure to buy her book when you have the chance.
And if you want to know a bit more about Shelley, here is her bio:
Shelley Black has journeyed through being single longer than she expected and has since found joy, hope and purpose from a once begrudged season. She now challenges the status quo of what it means to be single as a modern-day Christian female, with a passion to infuse hope and restore joy to every single-girl heart. Shelley is a loving momma to her pup Lucy, is one proud “T” to six nieces and nephews and serves her local church in North Mississippi as the worship leader. Find her at SavoringSingle.com and across social media at SavoringSingle.
How about you?
How are you celebrating Valentine’s Day today?
P. S. My good friend Livy organised this blog tour and has organised many others. If you’re a Christian author who would like to have someone organise a blog tour for your upcoming book, then I highly recommend checking her out. Here is the link to her services